Universal truth - we’re all going to die.
Extra truth - when we shine the light on the end of life - we live even brighter today.
Why talk about death when there’s so much living to preserve and enhance and enjoy?
Great question.
The end of life is a part of life – just as birth is a part of life. In my experience, when we see that ending as part of the whole (not something relegated to the shadows), well, we can talk – even a smidge - more freely about it. Those conversations bring our living into even more focus. Now. And ALL the way to the end.
Surfacing our plans, our wishes, our dreams, our fears opens the door to enriching our present. And, when the time comes, that same information and open dialogue allows for an aligned end of life transition for us and those we love. A source of peace.
Explore what I’m up to….
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Coaching
Whether you are on your own journey - or you are walking alongside a parent, friend or family member - the coach-client partnership can help you gain clarity and movement. What are you wanting to create, shift or do differently? How are you wanting to show up? Where to begin?
When we have a little space to hear ourselves, some prompting questions to invite us further, and an active listener to catch and connect our wisdom, well, we can design an intentional way forward on this unfamiliar path.
The process flows from my decade-long coaching practice, while acknowledging that the context here is broader and deeper. You can read more about my coaching here - Learn More
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Planning
Legal forms in a file drawer are a start. But a wider deeper advance care plan and convo is the real goal.
The magic lies in creating clarity for yourself, documenting your wishes well, and communicating widely. Get clear on your do/don’t wishes for end of life treatment choices – and, importantly, identify who will represent your wishes in the event you can’t.
And then, dive deeper to clarify what matters most to you, how you want to be supported, and even how you want to be remembered.
In my experience, your own wishes are way more accessible than you realize. A little space and prompts to surface it is all that is required. And some accountability to cross the finish line never hurts!
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Support
End of life care takes a village – each person bringing expertise, wisdom and care. And sometimes it can be hard to surface – or to hear - the real wishes of the person at the center of all the loving swirl.
As an End-of-Life Doula, I provide non-medical, emotional and resource support to individuals and their families during this unprecented experience. Having a doula is like having someone who is wholly in your corner, and yet not part of your circle. Someone who can see what might be missing, offer resources, listen with a whole heart, hear what’s not being said, and support the whole of your journey.
This kind of relationship can include reflective legacy work, planning conversations, companionship through the dying process, and ongoing grief support.
